Change your mind or change your approach:
One of the frustrations about sharing the vision of a business is being engaged with people who blame everyone else, the victim mentality, when we are actually looking for people who want an answer to the question “How can I?”
This post is provoked by my Monday discussions with vincentbyrne.ie regarding the development of his online business coaching and a random email from the people behind “The Secret”:
|A Secret Scrolls message from Rhonda Byrne
Creator of The Secret
From The Secret Daily Teachings
I have been in search of the reason why so many Irish people have this victim mentality. Some are rightfully victims. A handful of “developers”, Bankers, Religious Orders, ably backed by generations of politicians have screwed over Irish Society for their own objectives.
I am now convinced that this goes all the way back to being “Subjects” of an Empire. The control we in Ireland have experienced from Church, State, Empire, the conditioning of fear, the creation of fear, how we were brought up, it is inherent in the way we are taught to see things.
Which may account for the sense of entitlement I encounter, the sense that “they have enough, I will take this”, the sense of Suspicion, that anything standing out from the herd, is viewed with!
I was delighted yesterday, when Vincent differentiated between “Reaction and Response”:
“He has had a bad reaction to the tablets.” versus: :He is responding well to treatment”.
|The differences between:||The Victim Mentality||And
The people I am looking for
|Mood:||Pessimistic, negative||Optimistic, possibilities|
|Mindset:||Judgmental, reactive, critical, inflexible||Thoughtful, responsive, curious,|
|Attitude||Defensive, attacks, someone wins, someone loses.||Collabatory, Win Win|
|Excuses, reasons, interrupts, waiting…||How can I? Who can help me?|
How do you change from victim to leader? Change your mind or change your approach:
What outcome do you want?
Our philosophy is summed up as:
“You will get all you want in life, if you help enough other people get what they want.”
Remember the basic approach I have been saying we use in our day job:
- Where do you want to get to?
- Where are you now?
- What is stopping you?
- Implement a Plan.
Remember your intuition, when you were little? Remember it, trust it, believe in it, follow it, even if it is away form the herd!
You need to develop persistence. Momentum will crash through barriers for you. Create space in your life, to think to act, to let the good stuff in!!!
There is nothing wrong with dreaming, thinking about the future, what you want, but he most important thing is the smallest thing you can do right NOW, to move you in the right direction (see Steve Chandler):
The Next Step.
What is it to be?